Live In Or Marriage Or...?

A time immemorial trend in India is, trending with the trend. Remember, the trend when it was a a routine matter of debate 'Which is better Love Marriage or Arrange Marriage'? Prior to that there was another trend too 'To Marry or To Not Marry at all' which still is in practice and perhaps this 'LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP' is being advocated or accepted mostly by those class of people who earlier were finding it comfortable to stay alone or to not marry at all. Somehow, it has emerged as a really trending option which almost has received a social approval now a days. 

Before dealing with the issue it seems quite essential to understand whether any more option is also available to choose from? No...Because no such option is in trend!!! Basically, it is more important to understand what exactly is the purpose behind any relationship? What's the need or expectation behind accepting to spend the life together? One can not bluntly advocate or suggest that which format of relationship is ideal since, every format has its own limitations and advantages. Opting for Live In Relationship, or Marriage or following any other format does not make any difference if the selection of life partner is wise and correct. While giving a serious thought on the incidences of failure of any relationship it is evident quite often that the initial decision of being together was either an immature decision or it was based upon some impractical expectations.       

This is not a matter of solicitation also. The Natural strength of any good relationship is dependent upon the rationality and genuineness of the expectations from each other, adaptability and sacrifices, and more importantly being complimentary for each other without having any lustful craving or cupidity.  Examples of success and failure are there for all such formats so, instead of following of any trend it would be more wise to consider to spend a bit of more time in order to ensure that - 

Yes! this is that very person with whom I may spend rest of my life...

It is a very serious and rational question for any relationship, that what is more important in making a long lasting and healthy relationship A Social legal bonding or a moral bonding or it is both? Nevertheless, instead of searching the seeds of happiness and love in a format like Live In or Marriage or Any other else...  

It is better to search and find it within the inner heart of thyself...

Remember, the saying from our ancient times

Miya Biwi Razi Toh Kya Karega Kazi?

Thinking Of A Virgin...Huh!!!

Have anyone ever came across an advertisement in any matrimony site or column stating that "seeking a virgin bride with intact hymen"? Perhaps! never ever! Why? Because, it is rubbish and ridiculous. Similarly it is rubbish to think even that it could be ever considered as a character certificate of a girl. Before making any consideration on this subject at least let us think that in which era we are living?

However, it is from the time immemorial that a woman's virginity has been considered as her prized and precious possession which she was expected to offer to her husband with a great sense of pride. Cultures across the world have placed a high value on  a woman's virginity throughout the history. But in the present era when many couples are there who are in a relationship without having any qualms or concern about getting sexually intimate with each other even though there may be no chance that the relationship will culminate into marriage. Time has changed and so the values and priorities of young men and women, sex is no more a taboo of that kind as it was earlier. According to many gynecologists and sex counselors also, this kind of mentality is largely because of some sick and orthodox traditional values which are embedded quite strongly  in society. 

Discussing about virginity as a character certificate of a girl, seems to be most irrelevant or orthodox because of its scientific reality also. Numerous reasons are there why a woman might not bleed. Almost 40-45 percent of women do not bleed at all and few bleed ever so slightly that its not getting noticed or detected. Other women have had the most minor of childhood accidents or falls that broke the hymen and causes them not to bleed in maturity, and they may not even aware that such an accident had taken place. For some women, the hymen does not break until childbirth. It is also established that many women even don't have the hymen by birth also.

Thus, apart from every realistic or non-realistic expectations about virginity one and only logical question remains quite valid and rational that for a one time rather one moments experience how a person with even a little intellect can ruin the immortal bond of love and commitment for life. We must understand that chastity and purity are character traits that exist quite independently of the hymen’s presence or absence. 

The Scorching Heat : How To Beat

Its not just rising mercury, its rising heat, rising sunburns, rising rashes, rising itches, rising diseases, rising discomforts, rising expenses, rising crisis, rising abnormalities of life and the much important its rising risk of life many a times. 

Rising Heat

It is really not possible for every one to be equipped with luxurious and costly gizmos to beat the heat and keep you cool all the day and night. Its not only costly as well as its not environment friendly too. It is not possible and wise to be sole dependent of power consuming appliances to lead a comfortable life. The crisis during summer is growing now a days and it is a result of pollution caused and created by humans only. Growing population and consecutive growth in pollution has really gone cruel to entire humanity. 

Sweating Women in a Hot Sunny Day

In this situation its time to think wise and and the need of hour is to stay cool naturally without making any harm to the environment. Here are some truly helpful, time tested and natural solutions to keep you cool healthy and fit this summer. Some most practical and easy DIY solutions will help a lot to beat the heat this summer. Just try it and feel the difference.

Water adds life in summer

Drinking plenty of water is an unique and wonderful remedy to beat the adversity of heat in summer. It prevents from dehydration an compensates the loss of minerals due to excessive sweating. It also helps maintain the glow of skin in summer. Adding lemon, mint leaves and a pinch of salt makes it more useful, refreshing and effective.  

Comfortable Cotton Wear

Using cotton cloths and bed sheets is another is another helpful way to keep you cool all the summer. Preferably, wearing full sleeves in order to keep entire body covered not only helps to protect from harmful sun rays it also maintains proper respiration of the skin. It is better if you choose light color clothes during summer. It reflects harmful sun rays and keeps you comfortable and cool. Similarly Cotton bed sheets and pillow covers are truly good companion during summer nights. Wear Canvas Shoes. They are really comfortable and cool during summer.

Eating of sprouts, salads and citrus fruits could be a wonderful idea during summer season. They are easy to digest and keeps your belly cool and tuned.  Avoid spicy foods as much as you can. They cause a lot of unrest to the digestive system during summer. Nature offers excellent fruits this season, like Watermelon, Cucumber, Orange, Papaya, Grapes, Pineapples and Mangoes. These all are extremely useful to put the scorching heat to the rest.  

Using an Umbrella to protect from Sun Rays

Avoiding direct sunlight as much as its possible is key mantra for keeping yourself comfortable and cool during scorching sunny days. Prefer to have an umbrella if its really important and necessary to be exposed to the sun. Try to keep the back of your neck in shade when you are exposed to sun (wearing a cap backwards, or raising your collar could be a better idea) or putting a wet handkerchief on the back of the neck is also good. This is because sensors for our body temperature control system is in that area only, and thus with this method the rest of your body thinks that you are "cool". Try your best to keep your body fully covered with soft and loose fitting cotton clothes.

Taking Shower

Bath properly minimum twice a day and rub you body thoroughly with a thick towel. Its really refreshing and cool. Using a mild soap adds multiple freshness. Use it. Rub your body thoroughly and let your body getting cool adequately. Bathing before going to bed in night is a pleasant experience. Try it and feel the charm. One more wonderful idea is to add a few drops of aftershave lotion or eu-de-colon in your bathing water. It offers great refreshment. Hope, you'll make your summer more enjoyable.