Thinking Of A Virgin...Huh!!!

Have anyone ever came across an advertisement in any matrimony site or column stating that "seeking a virgin bride with intact hymen"? Perhaps! never ever! Why? Because, it is rubbish and ridiculous. Similarly it is rubbish to think even that it could be ever considered as a character certificate of a girl. Before making any consideration on this subject at least let us think that in which era we are living?

However, it is from the time immemorial that a woman's virginity has been considered as her prized and precious possession which she was expected to offer to her husband with a great sense of pride. Cultures across the world have placed a high value on  a woman's virginity throughout the history. But in the present era when many couples are there who are in a relationship without having any qualms or concern about getting sexually intimate with each other even though there may be no chance that the relationship will culminate into marriage. Time has changed and so the values and priorities of young men and women, sex is no more a taboo of that kind as it was earlier. According to many gynecologists and sex counselors also, this kind of mentality is largely because of some sick and orthodox traditional values which are embedded quite strongly  in society. 

Discussing about virginity as a character certificate of a girl, seems to be most irrelevant or orthodox because of its scientific reality also. Numerous reasons are there why a woman might not bleed. Almost 40-45 percent of women do not bleed at all and few bleed ever so slightly that its not getting noticed or detected. Other women have had the most minor of childhood accidents or falls that broke the hymen and causes them not to bleed in maturity, and they may not even aware that such an accident had taken place. For some women, the hymen does not break until childbirth. It is also established that many women even don't have the hymen by birth also.

Thus, apart from every realistic or non-realistic expectations about virginity one and only logical question remains quite valid and rational that for a one time rather one moments experience how a person with even a little intellect can ruin the immortal bond of love and commitment for life. We must understand that chastity and purity are character traits that exist quite independently of the hymen’s presence or absence.